For many years I’ve been working on me hardcore. I’ve heard we must fail a heck of a lot before we can succeed. I’m extremely lucky and very positive so I hadn’t really gotten in toon with this whole failure thing.
Then I began to really look into it. Wow, I’ve really mastered this whole failure thing.
I failed in;
Being a good son
Being a good student (great grades. Terrible attitude)
Staying out of trouble
Making my loved ones proud
Making money with a great job
My first marriage
Excelling at my job according to my superiors
Keeping my son from doing dumb sh.t
Being 42 and still not being able to take care of my mother (that house we promised around 10yrs old)
Making money at that other job
Being happy at yet the other job
Being a great friend
I’m sure I can go on and on. I reckon as positive and happy as I am truth be told I have really mastered this whole failure thing.
I’m a big believer in the notion that going through a hard life is a must before we can live the “good” life
I guess it was all part of the plan.
I stand today feeling very successful and truly happy with my life.
Hard work works but you really gotta be consistent about working hard on a daily. Not only at work, but at home too and most importantly working hard on you.
What do I mean by that?
I’ve been reading and watching videos on me mindful positive stuff from philosophy to motivational stuff to every religion I could muster
I’ve been happily married for many years (married for 15 but not all were happy years)
I’ve NEVER called my wife any negative names
I spend a great amount of time with my kiddos
I’m the hardest worker in the room at all times regardless of my position
I run a minimum of six miles a week
I workout 3 to 5 times a week
I have mentored Many
I make enough money to be happy with myself as a provider
My point is that we don’t wake up one day and decide that we’re going to be happy and poof there it is.
My particular work has taken me roughly 20 years to get here but all those failures have mostly taken place in the past 20 years as well
I lived wrong for a long time. I’ve felt that I had to balance life by living, giving and earning a good life. I often say I am undeserving of the life I now have. My wife always tries to knock this notion…. But she didn’t know the guy I once was.
Whether I have earned this privilege or not, I work hard at life on a daily to earn it.
Life can be hard on us but that doesn’t mean we give up, it means we are getting closer to the good life. Nevertheless, we must put in the work. We get what we give.
I’m glad I didn’t give up on myself
I believe I am here to leave this place a little better than I found it
Wayne Dyer said something that stuck “you gotta believe it in order to see it” what a notion.
Make life matter my friend… Make it matter